Date: 2018-05-05 09:18
I was with my partner 65 years and recently he just walked out on me only leaving a letter explaining why he left & what he expected me to do in order to win him back. He said I should get a career (which I already have but obviously not good enough) and should stop talking when we are around his family. When he left I contacted his mother & father who swore they hadn 8767 t heard from but I knew they were only protecting their son & I don 8767 t blame them for that. He has taken off for a week in the past but never left a letter & always left money to help me pay our bills & home. This time around he took our only car, left me a pile of bills and his damn dog. Since then I have seen him on 7 occassions. 6st time we never really had a chance to talk personally due to nosey family always hanging around to be nosey so we didn 8767 t really get to speak but we were very touchy & intimate coz we missed eachother. 7nd time we hired a hotel room and enjoyed our selves immensely however when he told me his parents were helping him by financing his escape I flew into a deep rage because I lost my house, car & the person I thought loved me. Since then I deleted his number & blocked from contact for now. But he uses people to pass messages that he loves me & I 8767 m the only woman he 8767 ll ever love. Because he 8767 s took off in the past I 8767 ve never truely forgiven him. He broke my trust because of all the lies & deceit & the fact he wasn 8767 t embarrassed to ask people to lie to from both our families is what really infuriates me. It 8767 s also made me accuse him of being a cheating man even tho I know he 8767 s more likely to cheat on me with a car than an actual person (he 8767 s a rev head through & through). He says he wants me to move on but at the same time while i 8767 m trying he keeps popping through txts or asks his family to contact me to reassure me that he loves me. Honestly I 8767 m over never feeling good enough. I just want to move on but do it in a civilised way without being bitter. He 8767 s always depended on me to wait for him and look after his person items & pet. Everytime this has happened I do what he expect because I thought that was love. Now I realise that he thinks he 8767 s got me wrapped around my finger but I want to show him that I can be unpredictable and move on without allowing him the priviledge of running back to me. When he lies he ends up telling different stories to me, to his mother and to other people in general.
• Assists Agency Director in developing, evaluating, and delivering of existing and new services to meet the needs of individuals throughout the State of New Mexico who are deafblind or deaf with significant disabilities
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I have never posted on here although I have been an avid reader here and on Rori 8767 s blog so I will cautiously attempt an opinion here
Circular dating doesn 8767 t mean dating a man per se. Rori claims you do it even when your are married. I took it to mean that you make yourself the center of your life and all around you (the circle) is your full life. And you do not give up this life when a man you care about/love comes into the picture. I took it as a similar thing to the mulligan (?) analogy your wife made awhile ago. You can 8775 date 8776 your job, your friends, your *censored*ren, family, hobbies, the man at the store who you just smiled at it means that your life is full and happy and not focused on ONE man who you make responsible for your happiness in life. It makes YOU responsible for your happiness. You are standing in the center of the circle and YOU are the focus. Many women meet a man and give up all the other parts of their life and focus on HIM. That 8767 s what makes them insecure and impatient and, finally, demanding and unreasonable. By keeping your life full, the focus is off any one man for the responsibility for your happiness. By keeping your life full of things, you can sincerely give a man that mulligan because whatever he did was not and is not the end of your world. And by being full of your life and happy, he will be attracted to you if you are the right one for him and it will work out. And if he is not attracted to you, your life is full of possibilities and happiness and you just keep riding on. She tells you to engage with all men and learn from them and figure out what triggers your bad feelings so you can learn to be authentic with everyone. She never suggested being intimate with more than one man at a time she advises against it as far as I can tell. I think she is about building your self-esteem and being vulnerable and authentic and feminine. And so I can see where her readers would get defensive and 8775 triggered 8776 because it has been a process for them to get to where they are and it is probably working for them. So maybe they took it the wrong way from a masculine, direct point of view. I think you are both great and both saying the same thing. She is definitely not about cheating or dishonesty or anything like that. And she does not usually advise 8775 dumping 8776 the guy and never advises hurting anyone. Anyways, as I said before, I think both of you are great! It 8767 s Christian Carter who is the , only *censored*ding!